How to Let Go of the Old You and Grow Into Your Next Chapter

Roslyn L. Ashford, LPC

"The trees are about to show us how lovely it is to let things go."

— Unknown

Hi! I'm Dr. Roz

You have the power to make an impact in your life, career, and relationships. My goal is to help you unlock the path.

Why Letting Go Feels So Hard — and Why It Matters

There comes a point in every healing journey where you’re no longer who you used to be… but not quite who you’re becoming.
It’s a messy middle — where the old version of you starts to feel too small, but the new you hasn’t fully formed yet.

And in that space, many of us freeze.

We try to hold on — to familiar patterns, roles, and beliefs — even when we know deep down they’re keeping us stuck.

Why?
Because letting go feels like losing something.
But here’s the truth: letting go isn’t about loss. It’s about making space.

The Nature of Growth: What Spring Can Teach Us

Look at nature. Every spring, the earth resets.

Trees shed their bare branches. Seeds crack open. Nothing blooms by clinging to what was.

Spring is a powerful reminder that growth doesn’t come from grasping — it comes from release.

The same is true for us.

Before we can grow into peace, purpose, or healthier relationships… we often need to release:

The roles we played to survive
The stories we were told about our worth
The habits that kept us busy but emotionally disconnected
The fear that we’re “too late” to start again

3 Things You Might Be Ready to Let Go Of

Perfectionism
That voice that says, “I’ll be enough when…” is never satisfied. Letting go of perfection opens the door to self-compassion and peace.
People-Pleasing Patterns
Saying “yes” when you mean “no” chips away at your authenticity. Your needs matter — and boundaries are not betrayal.
The Belief That Change Has to Be Drastic
Sometimes, the most powerful shifts start small — a single choice, a subtle mindset change, a decision to pause instead of push through.

Letting Go Is the Beginning — Not the End

When we stop clinging to outdated identities or survival strategies, something amazing happens:
We remember who we are beneath the layers.

We begin to ask better questions:
“What do I need now?”
“What kind of life am I ready to build?”
“Who do I want to be, now that I’m no longer in survival mode?”

This is the beginning of transformation.

Wondering Where to Start?

Even when we feel the nudge to change, it can feel heavy. It’s easy to second guess and over think it. You don’t have to figure it out alone. If you’re ready to start healing — but unsure how to take the first step — I created a simple, powerful guide to help you begin with clarity and confidence.

Ready to begin?
Download the free 7 Steps to Start Your Healing Journey and take the first aligned step.

A Powerful Start On Your Journey

Healing is often thought of as this big, complicated process that feels impossible to start — but it doesn’t have to be overwhelming.

The 7 Steps to Start Your Healing Journey is a simple, clear guide to help you begin, whether you’re taking the first step toward therapy or need guidance on how to heal on your own.

Manageable Steps toward Healing and Healthy Relationships

This free guide is a gentle, empowering starting point for anyone ready to move out of survival mode and into healing — but unsure where to begin.

Through 7 reflective, soul-honoring steps, you’ll learn how to reconnect with your emotional world, release what’s been weighing you down, and take the first aligned steps toward lasting change. By the end of this guide, you’ll feel:

More grounded and emotionally aware
Clearer about what’s been holding you back
Encouraged to take action — with support, not pressure
Empowered to begin healing on your own terms

Begin Your Transformation in three steps

Download the Guide

Start with a free, gentle guide that helps you reflect, reset, and move forward with clarity.

Reflect and Journal

Use the reflection prompts to tune into your needs and begin the healing process — one small shift at a time.

Walk Away with a Strategy

You’ll have a clear, personal roadmap to help you take action that fits your life.

You’re not alone on this journey

We understand how isolating it can feel to face life’s challenges. This workshop offers a compassionate space where you can explore self-discovery and healing with others who understand your struggles. Trust us to guide you with wisdom and care. Our approach combines empathy with expert guidance, ensuring that you feel supported every step of the way. With nearly two decades of experience, we know how to empower you to reclaim your emotional well-being.